“Every single day, happiness is a work in progress. Every single day, the concept of love, and self-love, is a work in progress. It’s never just going to come easily.”
⁃Taylor Swift ♡
When someone asks what we want to be when we grow up, in some cases we say “ I want to be happy”. We think that the concept of happiness is a constant thing that is somewhere in the future. Something we strive for instead of living in the now. One of the hardest parts of life is having a positive outlook on things. Looking at each day as a fresh start, opportunity to grow and looking at mistakes as something you learn from. We have the freedom to choose how we live our lives. Being happy should be easy then, right? Just be happy, you have such a good life, you should be happy.. but feelings change, just as everything else in life and feelings of happiness can come and go. It’s impossible to avoid road bumps in life, all we can do is embrace the change and know that self love and happiness is journey. One that you work at just as you would work at your job.
Sometimes I feel as if it’s simply too difficult or takes too much time or too much work but I know that any moment of any day can be a self love moment. As Taylor mentioned above “happiness is a work of progress.” It isn’t something that just magically happens. You have to work for it, be in the mind set for it, let it all in and don’t let go. Being happy, feeling and being positive takes time. It takes courage. It takes strength and drive. Some days are better than others. Some days it’ll be easily to love yourself while other days it feels like the world will be crashing down. That’s okay. Just know that it’s all worth the fight.
You are worth the time. You are worthy of self love & happiness. I tell myself this everyday and sometimes I don’t even hear it. Self love, being positive, strong it’s a hard fight. Some days it feels impossible, but it never really is. I’m so thankful for the people I have in my life and the memories that are being made everyday. The good moments always outweigh the bad and that is what matters. That is what gets me through the times when I’m feeling down.
Ps: I wrote this last week and I really needed it today. I’ve been feeling really down physically and mentally. I woke up feeling extremely sick/nauseous and the random stomach pain I deal with has become somewhat normal. I’m glad I wrote this, mostly because it’s nice reading it back.. To know what better days will come and that this feeling isn’t constant.. I hope this put a smile on your face and gave you hope that things will get better.. That even though happiness and self love isn’t easy, it’s worth it in the end. I write these for you, but sometimes I write them for me too. Also for those wondering Chapter 3 of the Mother’s mental health toolkit will be out later next week! Stay tuned for that! Enjoy your weekend..
Pps: Here’s a little guide of things that could possibly help you change your mind set!
⁃ Wake up with the optimism and hope that it’ll be a good day.. Even if you are faced with challenges or conflicts try to look at the good moments in your day.
⁃ Do one thing you love to do. Whether that be fitness, painting, shopping, hiking. Whatever that thing is do it. Do a lot of it. Take time do to something you love and don’t feel guilty for taking that time.
⁃ Reach out to someone who you’ve been missing. Bite the bullet and open yourself up. Don’t hold back and express yourself and your feelings because you have them. Not because you expect something in return.
⁃ Listen to your favourite song or artist when you are feeling anxious. Take a moment to dance, cry, laugh or just breathe.